I have found the one whom my soul loves! ❤️ Marriage is such an amazing thing. It is not always easy, but when God sends you the person you are made for, it’s the most amazing thing. Marriage is growing together, falling in love with each other daily, going through hard things together, and helping each other out even if it makes you uncomfortable. Most of all, it’s growing with Jesus together because He’s the one that will help and lead you through anything. Today I am sharing a few things that help Surge and I in our marriage. If your going through a hard time or if you’re engaged and needed some marriage tips, keep reading.
It’s not all about you!
Surge and I have been married for 5 years this October. Marriage has it’s ups and downs but overall it’s been the best 5 years together with my soulmate. What I’ve learned in the last 5 years is that it’s not all about you. When you get married and say I do at the alter, it means dying to yourself and living for your spouse. For instance, Surge’s love language is doing things for him. He runs his own business, which makes him busy always, so there are days where he is more stressed and I can see it. I try to go out of my way to run a few errands for him, bring him lunch or his favorite coffee drink and send over sweet text messages. I always let tell him one thing I am grateful for about him and encourage him everyday. He loves when I do this and I see how much it helps him get through the day easier. He always does the same for me when I’m having my days. I love spending quality time. He brightens my days by the random things he does for me like giving foot massages every night or taking me out to spend time together. What also helps us is setting goals together and making them happen.
Prayer is key in a marriage! The quote is true that couples who pray together, stay together. We have always prayed together every morning and every night since we’ve gotten married. It’s such a vital piece in a marriage to pray together and for one another. There are times when we don’t meet eye to eye and argue. These are the moments where pray is such a help! Instead of rationalizing in my head all the ways I could change my spouse or why this happened, I turn to pray and it always helps! I begin to ask God to change my heart so that I can be more understanding in whatever we may not agree on with my husband. You have no idea how much this helps! I also pray daily for God to lead me to be a better wife. It encourages and uplifts me instead of me seeing things my way or nagging. There are moments when I feel down because my husband comes home from work late. Staying connected in prayer helps me get through the days and be more understanding to him. Blessing your husband while he’s out at work and praying for his jobs is so good as well. PRAYER is the key to any problem you may face in marriage or just to thank God for His goodness and blessing over your family. Our God can help in any situation!
Prayer is key and communication follows right after. I am the type of person that bottles up whatever is bothering me. My husband has to beg me to tell him what is wrong and how he can help. He is the better one with communicating and always wants to talk about the issue. If we were both the way I am with keeping things inside, we wouldn’t get far in life together. When we have a disagreement or get into an argument, we always try to get to the bottom of the issue by by talking about it. It’s good sometimes give each other a little time to think before you speak. Say what’s on your mind in honesty and figure ways you can help each other out.
Spending time together:
Spending time together is also very important. Every week we plan a date night or something fun to do together. Even if it’s just to walk and get some ice cream, make the time! It’s healthy in a relationship to spend time together. You want to grow and fall in love with one other everyday, so have fun with date nights! It doesn’t have to be anything grand just make sure your being intentional about making it a priority to spend time together. I found fun ideas on Pinterest for easy, cheap date nights and we love making time for each other.
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Marriage is a gift from God. It’s sacred and the most amazing thing! These are some things that have helped us both out in our past 5 years. I hope this can help you along the way! This book has also helped me so much to learn to be a caring and a loving wife and to alway lean on prayer, The Power of a Praying Wife . If your looking for a good book to read and to learn from. Be sure to check it out!
Thank you loves for reading and following along! Have an amazing week sweet peas!
xoxo, Alena Gidenko